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Reflection: Love at Home

The family unit is the basis of all human existence. It is so important that there are three commandments which were instituted to shape our behavior.

12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.

14 Thou shalt not commit adultery.

— Exodus 20:12, 14

39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

— Matthew 22:39

These three verses explain that we should not only listen to our parents, honor your marital commitments, and that you should treat all humans with love and kindness.

Parents have the responsibility to not only rear up their children with love and compassion, but also to teach them rules help them learn to treat others fairly.

Husbands and wives have responsibilities to cherish each other, maintaining a firm foundation of support and love so that in difficult times, you can rely on the other person to get you through.

And, above all, you should treat family members just as well as you treat strangers and do so consistently.

In doing so, you are following the example that Jesus Christ set for us all. He was a “brother” to all persons, a leader among men.

Elder David A. Bednar counsels:

“As disciples of the Savior, we are not merely striving to know more; rather, we need to consistently do more of what we know is right and become better.

We should remember that saying “I love you” is only a beginning. We need to say it, we need to mean it, and most importantly we need consistently to show it. We need to both express and demonstrate love. […]

The relationship between love and appropriate action is demonstrated repeatedly in the scriptures and is highlighted by the Savior’s instruction to His Apostles: “If ye love me, keep my commandments” (John 14:15). Just as our love of and for the Lord is evidenced by walking ever in His ways (see Deuteronomy 19:9), so our love for spouse, parents, and children is reflected most powerfully in our thoughts, our words, and our deeds (see Mosiah 4:30).

Feeling the security and constancy of love from a spouse, a parent, or a child is a rich blessing. Such love nurtures and sustains faith in God. Such love is a source of strength and casts out fear (see 1 John 4:18). Such love is the desire of every human soul. […]

Being consistent in our homes is important for another reason. Many of the Savior’s harshest rebukes were directed to hypocrites. Jesus warned His disciples concerning the scribes and Pharisees: “Do not ye after their works: for they say, and do not” (Matthew 23:3). This strong admonition is sobering given the counsel to “express love—and show it,” to “bear testimony—and live it,” and to “be consistent.”” (Full talk here – More Diligent and Concerned at Home)

Of course, circumstances may arise when parents or spouses are not righteous. They may be unable to show they care OR they may be abusive.

In these instances, know that God loves you and that you have value. It is OK to remove yourself from a bad situation. Heavenly Father is aware of your struggles. Seek counsel and assistance in doing the right.